When anything in our lives, whether it is marriage or a position, becomes the reason we live we have replaced God with an idol. My desire to a godly woman should, first, be because I love my Savior and loving my Savior means keeping His commands. The fact that being a godly woman will also mean being a good helpmeet is a side benefit to my ultimate goal and desire.
Making marriage our life goal will not only make us idolaters, but also will make good little hypocrites. The godly man I desire to be my husband only sees the outward and judges by that, but God sees the heart. If I am trying to attract a husband I need only put on an outward show; if I am seeking God's approval I must have a heart righteousness that can only be through His Son.
May the Lord and His glory be our only goal in life and let our desire to marry be only if it is to His glory.But seek ye first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness; and all these things [the things God knows we need, not what we want] shall be added unto thee. Matthew 6:33
I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus. Phillipians 3:14